Radical Self-Love: Making ‘Me’ a Priority

a cup of coffee and some books on a bathtub

A lot of us find it difficult to prioritize ourselves amidst our busy schedules and endless responsibilities. We tend to put everyone else’s needs first, neglecting our own.

Growing up in Nigeria, many of us are taught to always please others and to prioritize their needs, sometimes subconsciously. While this isn’t a terrible trait to possess, it can lead to people-pleasing tendencies and a constant neglect of our own desires. But that’s why you have us to tell you that it’s okay to put yourself first, to focus on your own needs and wants, and to love yourself unconditionally.

Radical self-love is all about accepting ourselves, flaws and all, and giving ourselves permission to love us deeply. It’s about taking the time to engage in activities that make us happy, to be kind to ourselves, and to recognize that our needs and feelings are important. So, don’t feel guilty about taking a day off to pamper yourself, or indulging in activities that make you happy. It’s important to give yourself permission to enjoy life, and not feel guilty for it.

But how do we begin this journey towards self-love? Here’s how we’re doing it:

Prioritize Self-Care: This is an absolute must! Taking care of our mental and emotional well-being is top priority.

Embrace Your Flaws: We all have flaws and that’s okay. Accepting your imperfections is an important part of self-love. We’re learning to love the weird stuff about because they make us unique.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: We wish that you could see yourself how we did. We think you’re amazing and we all are actually. It’s never a competition for us so instead of comparing ourselves, lets focus on our own growth.

Surround Yourself with Positivity: We love to surround ourselves with people who uplift and support us. Let go of those toxic relationships and surround yourself with positivity.

Remember, radical self-love takes time, effort and patience. Be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time. We’re all in this together.


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