Isn’t it funny how sometimes we treat our loved ones better than we treat ourselves? We care for our friends when they’re sick, cheer our family up when they’re down, and reassure them when they’re doubting themselves. Yet, when it comes to us, it’s not quite the same. So, what do we need to work on here? Two beautiful words – Self-Compassion.
Self-compassion and Self- love are two words you’ve probably heard a lot. For a while, we thought they meant the same thing but they don’t. They’re more than just feel-good quotes on pretty background images. These two concepts go hand in hand and together, they can make a big difference to our happiness and well-being.
So, when we think of self-love, it’s about caring for ourselves, putting our needs first, treating ourselves right – basically, it’s about loving yourself, much like falling in love with another person. Self-compassion, on the other hand, is like having a very best friend who is always kind, understanding, and patient with you. A friend who, instead of pointing out your shortcomings, reminds you that you’re only human and it’s okay to make mistakes. And who is this friend? It’s YOU! To yourself.
Many times, we think that we’re harsh to ourselves because it keeps us motivated. But what we overlook is the power of kindness and compassion, and how it can lead us towards growth, resilience and well-being.
Let’s keep in mind that the kindness we extend to family and friends is the very kindness we should be showing ourselves. You wouldn’t tell a friend that they messed up and it’s all their fault, would you? You would listen to their problems, be understanding and give them gentle, loving advice. Well, we believe that’s what we should do for ourselves too.
Let’s use this saying we hear all the time – treat others how you want to be treated. This is true. Now, we can turn it around and say- treat yourself as you treat others. Be as kind to yourself as you are to the people you love. Please forgive your mistakes, learn from them, and remember – you are growing, learning, and getting better each day.
Every day won’t be sunny, and that’s okay. You will have some shitty days. In moments of difficulty, stress, or self-doubt, try using words of kindness to soothe yourself, just like you would with a friend or loved one. Don’t worry, it may feel awkward at first, but with practice, self-compassion can become your natural response.
Our words and actions can sometimes be from a place of judgment, pressure, and self-criticism. But with the power of self-compassion, we can start unlearning those habits. We’ve started a journey of falling in love with ourselves, for being who we are – beautifully flawed, constantly learning, and always growing.
So here’s the most beautiful lesson – Be kind to others, yes, but don’t forget to be kind to yourself too. It’s okay to stumble and fall. What matters is picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and showing up again with compassion for yourself. Let’s begin our journey to nurture our well-being, one compassionate moment at a time.
