The fear of being out alone by yourself is a very real thing and you’re not alone in feeling this way. For many of us, dragging a friend along to have a good time almost feels like a comfort blanket. Shared experiences are wonderful, but there will be times when you’ll need to step out solo. One of such scenarios is solo dates. We would hate for you to miss out on a lovely experience just because of that social anxiety. Those thoughts about what to do with yourself while alone in public, is what we’re trying to get rid off.
Solo dates can be a bit nerve-wracking because of the pressure to actually enjoy yourself without feeling embarrassed. Here’s how we think we can help you feel more comfortable on your next solo date.
First and foremost, it’s essential to know that it is actually perfectly fine to be out alone. It’s okay to want to do things with yourself and you alone. Don’t be afraid that people will stare; it’s probably because you’re so beautiful and confident stepping out solo. Embrace that.
Second, you should do your research on where you’re going if you’ve never been there before. One thing that causes this anxiety is the fear of the unknown and unfamiliar. We think it’s important to know the policies of the place, whether there are any dress codes, memberships, or prices, just so you don’t look lost or get caught unawares.
Next, let’s consider going to these places when there would be less of a crowd. Rush hours or busy seasons might not be the best time if you get overwhelmed by crowds. You can try going at quieter times to feel more at ease.
Furthermore, depending on what activity you’re planning, feel free to bring your headphones, a book, or a journal. This just allows us to be in our own world for a bit, away from all that distraction. It gives us something to focus on if we start to feel self-conscious.
Next is one of our favourite ways of getting having anxiety-free solo dates, dress to impress yourself. Emphasis on yourself. You want to be as confident in yourself as possible. This doesn’t mean putting on the fanciest outfit; it means wearing something in which you feel the most authentic and comfortable. This way, you won’t have to worry that people are looking at you for the wrong reasons.
And lastly, if none of these tips work, do it regardless. Do it afraid and soon enough, you’ll realise that you’re doing just fine on your own. The fear of being alone can be paralysing, but the reward of overcoming it is the best feeling.
In the end, solo dates are about you and only you. They’re opportunities to connect with yourself, to enjoy your own company, and to step out of your comfort zone. It’s perfectly fine to be alone, and with a little preparation and a lot of self-love, you can have an anxiety-free solo date. So go on, treat yourself to that date—you deserve it!
